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"Open adoption and open records are important byways. But they are not the most compelling route. Family preservation is."
Dr. Randolph Severson, The Soul of Family Preservation

“Regrettably, in many cases, the emphasis has changed from the desire to provide a needy child with a home, to that of providing a needy parent with a child. As a result, a whole industry has grown, generating millions of dollars of revenues each year . . .”
The Special Rapporteur, United Nations, Commission on Human Rights, 2003.

"Over the past 30 years, the number of families from wealthy countries wanting to adopt children from other countries has grown substantially. At the same time, lack of regulation and oversight, particularly in the countries of origin, coupled with the potential for financial gain, has spurred the growth of an industry around adoption, where profit, rather than the best interests of children, takes centre stage. Abuses include the sale and abduction of children, coercion of parents, and bribery."
UNICEF's position on Inter-country adoption.

"...overseas adoption is a kind of child abuse by the state. ....Overseas adoption is the forced expulsion of children from the society where they are supposed to live. In this sense, overseas adoption is a social violence against children. As humans, we exist as part of a gigantic ecosystem. The existence of the biological parents of adoptees can never be annihilated nor denied.
"Overseas adoption is a forced separation of children from their natural ecosystems, as well as a way of forcing them into compulsory unity with settings different from and unnatural to their genetic and original social systems. Through this forced separation and compulsory unity, not only the adoptees, but also their biological parents, adoptive parents and their family members suffer trauma." Pastor Kim Do-hyun, director of KoRoot

Thursday, February 24, 2011

At the Base: The Most Insidious and Resilient Adoption Myth

- People read about babies relinquished for adoption having been used as "practice babies" and think it was a good idea, "better than just lying in a crib in an orphanage."

- Special needs twins - Victor and Nubia - are allowed to be adopted by their foster parents despite several reports of abuse and serious neglect.

- Adopted people are still denied equality in 44 states or so...

- Pro-lifers almost never think about helping mothers keep their babies.

Besides being about adoption issues, what do these things have in common?

Why do we repeatedly see such things?

My contention is that all go on because of a basic belief that "those babies were unwanted anyhow."

Why help a woman who comes to a crisis pregnancy center keep her baby, she has shown just by being there - in crisis - that she doesn't want her baby.

Why worry about foster kids being abused - their own parents didn't want them

Adoptees are trash and should be grateful for whatever crumbs they get and grateful they weren't aborted.

How do we change these attitudes??
Posted by at 9:10 PM

3 comments:

joy said...

I don't think we can. I think it is too base too tied to our animal instincts.

February 26, 2011 4:40 PM
Theodore said...

"Pro-lifers almost never think about helping mothers keep their babies."

In my experience they do as soon as relinquishment is unpopular enough, and aborting becomes the default in abortion vs. relinquishment. Their objective as a movement is to make sure that the Keep (parenting + temporary foster and such) vs Relinquish-stage is reached. That is their main goal. If supporting keeping will do that, they will, if telling girls, "You can always relinquish" does, they will.

March 6, 2011 12:16 AM
Theodore said...

Of course, one way to get at least Pro-Life more pro-keeping is even more adoptees making it publicly known that as far as they are concerned, they see no reason for gratitude for not having been aborted at all.

(Optimist adoptees, do NOT contradict them on camera, please, pretty please?)

March 6, 2011 1:45 AM

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