Dear Santa

Dear Santa Claus,

Here's what I want for Christmas:

Please help every mother struggling to keep her family together; give them what they need and keep them strong to fight the pressure for their kids. Remind them all that nothing is constant but change and their problems are temporary and adoption loss is forever. Tell scared mothers-to-be that adoption is a crap shoot and motherhood is the really brave, unselfish choice.

Please show the truth of adoption past to those who see children as highly touted commodities and eagerly snatch them up. Let them know the pain of losing one's heritage, language, genetic connectedness. Let them know the lifelong pain of mothers who lose their children to adoption.

Please assist all those torn apart by adoption to find one another and be reunited in peace, forgiveness and love. Give them one another! It would be the best Christmas present ever for all who long to know their kids are OK or what their mother and father look like.

Santa, please help as many people who want babies to have them and help those who can't  find peace with that and with other ways of helping kids...like being foster parents.  Help those who feel it a religious calling to "rescue" "orphans" that most of the kids in orphanages are not orphans. 90% have at least one parent and extended family who visit and hope to take them home again.  Tell them that if they adopt they may be unwittingly taking a child who was stolen or kidnapped and that they can help kids by donating to NGOs like SOS Children's Village, Save the Children or Christian Children's Fund.  Tell them that's what Jesus would do.

Please, Santa.