Thursday, December 2, 2010

Happy Holidays?

Are the holidays a happy time for you or a time to ponder the definition of family and what's missing?

2 comments:

Susie said...

The holidays are a happy time for me ~ with underlying sadness as I wish with all my heart that my family included ALL of my children.

This year, I am surprised that the loss seems so much greater ~ even though this is the second Christmas I will celebrate knowing that my son is alive and well. This year I am sad that he is not fully a part of my life; nor I fully a part of his.

Mirah Riben said...

Susie,

Actually, studies indicate that the pain and anger of loss intensify rather than diminish with time for many mothers. Also, many mothers experience post-reunion depression as finding their lost child - now an adult - brings a flood of all they've missed. Before reunion, we fantasize about our lost "baby" and then we see them in the flesh no longer a baby and are acutely aware of all we've mossed.

I wish you strength to get through...and perhaps the ability to channel some of your sadness into activism.

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