Canadian website Star.com reports on a terminated or "disrupted" adoption that "just didn't work out." A brother and sister returned like defective merchandise, or drapes you purchased and then deiced they didn't quite match your couch as well as you had hoped. After all, one auto manufacturer is now offering a money back guarantee on new car purchases!
The tale of Paula, 39, and Byran, 47, Blatchford who were raising Paula's teen from her first marriage, wanted more kids. Why is unknown. But, unable to have children naturally, they took in siblings from foster care after participating in a "rigorous" "mandatory preparation training of 27 hours in a program called PRIDE (Parent Resources for Information, Development and Education)." Twenty-seven HOURS.
After an idyllic summer the boy got into a squabble the first day of school. This, coupled with "continuous lying and stealing" and the reported lack the children bonding with the Blatchfords. What are they teaching them in the training classes if not to expect acting out and lack of ability to bond by children who have bene in foster care or institutionalized?
Bottom line: the report likens adoption to an arranged marriage. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don't. !! WHAT?!!
NO WAY! Marriage involves two consenting adults.
Adults making a commitment to care for CHILDREN is totally different, or should be.
Typically, the children are pathologized for their normal inability to bond -- as if their purpose is to love their adopters, not the other way around - in a sixteen month time period, when one of them was still expressing profound loss of her foster mother. Again, what is being taught in the training program? Obviously reality not getting through to people attending these classes.
They need to be taught the definition of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - something that it is not expected in a marriage but is expected of parents.
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