Many on the receiving end of adoption, celebrate a "Gotcha! Day."
From where I sit, as a loser in this uneven, lopsided transaction...I find it a bit offensive.
I cannot help wondering how adoptees feel about it?
Were any of you subjected to it growing up, or is it too new? Either way, how do you feel when you hear adoptive families celebrating the day the "Gotcha!" -- snatched you up and away!
This needs to be added to my list of "Adoption Dichotomies" posted on the 8th.
On other issues:
- How old is old enough to be found by the mother who bore and lost you to adoption?
- How old is old enough for a mother to go directly to her offspring and not ask the "permission" of his/her adoptive parents? 18? 21? older? younger? Never?
As soon as she can?
- Would it have been preferable of you - and at what ages - to have had contact made to your adoptive parents first?
- OR, would rather have been just left alone forever, until YOU were ready to initiate contact?
- What was done right/wrong for you in YOUR contact?
- How do you feel in general about having been adopted?
- no big deal
- would have preferred to have been born into adoptive family
- would have preferred to stay with and been raised by my immediate family?
- What's the best and worst parts about being adopted? Has it caused you pain? Confusion? Anger? Other feelings?
- Would you recommend others adopt?
- Would you recommend someone you love place a child for adoption?