Tucker Cipriano, 19, of Detroit, was charged with beating his adoptive father to death with a baseball bat.
In a well-composed, articulate letter-to-the editor, Tori Czech, who describes herself as "a young, successful, compassionate, ADOPTED individual" makes an impassioned plea against revealing the adopted status of people charged with murder.
She believes it stigmatizes all adoptees by association and will make people fearful of adopting, and fearful of adoptees in general. You can read her arguments in Does Adoption Detail Belong in Murder Story? Farmington Hills native says media included irrelevant information in Cipriano pieces.
I do not believe that intelligent people would use them to caste a wider net of suspicion or fear on all peoples who bear a similarity. If that were the case, the media would be barred from every factually disclosing a victim or perpetrator's race. Was not Trayvon's age, race and what he was wearing and doing at the time he was shot not relevant to the story? If Trayvon and Zimmerman had known each other previously in any capacity, would that not be relevant?
When a celebrity such as Lindsay Lohan or Charelie Sheen act out publicly - do we conclude that ALL celebrities are nuts or dug users?
When a politician is embroiled in a sex scandal, do we then believe that all politicians are pervs?
Some may choose to connect those dots and make such judgements or generalizations. It can't be helped. But we do not CENSOR facts from the news to prevent that from happening, nor to prevent "offending."
We need to get ALL secrecy out of adoption. Pull back the curtains, remove the rose-colored glasses, and face the truths - good, bad and ugly! If there is any possible - even remote - possibility of a cause and effect of adoption loss and separation that correlates to increases feelings of abandonment and rejection that in turn have even the slightest causal effect of suicides or murders -- shouldn't we be able to document case histories, collect and analyze the data in order to possibly find a way of preventing the angst in adoption that might lead someone to act out so violently???
The Truth Will Set us Free
Sanitizing things is not always the best solution, even when it may seem so.
To Tori Czech and others who feel "offended" by adoption being part of a tragic story, I remind them of these wise lyrical words of the Eagles:
So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the keyThe truth will set you free!
UPDATE 4/22: And the debate takes a new turn - is adoption to "blame."
Of course, the question is far too simplistic. We need to explore the ROLE adoption played in this tragedy ad others like it.