Here is how it goes:
Good traits, such as Steve Jobs becoming a "genius" and billionaire and successful innovative businessman are attributed to adoption saving his life from an abortion his loving parents never considered.
But Joshua Komisarjevsky, the adoptee turned mastermind monster house intruder, rapist, murderer, arsonist? What about people like Joshua who, despite being "saved" by adoption don't turn out too well?
Well, folks...here is the answer to this dilemma. It's really quite simple!
It's only "nature" or "in the blood" when it's bad.
When it's a good, well then it's obviously "nurture".
Thats how DNA works, don't ya' know?
See. the environment in which Komisarjevsky was raised - an environment that allowed him to be raped by a foster sibling - known to is adopters and ignored, who then likewise chose to ignore that by 9, he was peeking into girls' dressing rooms, peeping into the windows of people's homes and stealing panties off clotheslines. Finally, the did nothing when he molested of his sister...the environment that sought no psychological counseling for any of those events or his decent into burglary, preceding his monumental headline garnering act of monstrosity...ignored it all and PRAYED....none of that is responsible for his actions.
David Kirschner who reviewed the forensic psyche evalualtion for Joshua's trial said that there was "not a word about adoption, no analysis of [adoptive] family dynamics (and pathology), not a clue, re; motivation for the killings, etc., etc.
"This case is all about adoption pathology, and a bizarre [adoptive] family. I'd bet the ranch that his [adoptive parents] raised him to be born again (tabula rasa, re: any birth parents) into their born again delusional system."
But, on the other hand.... Steve Jobs - and the world - should to be thankful he wasn't aborted by parents who cared so much about his well-being they put caveats on his adoption regarding a college education for their son - an act they were forced into by being disallowed to marry.
Abulfattah Jandali and Joanne Schieble Simpson
Jobs' father, Jandali, was born in Syria to a wealthy landowner. At 18, he left Syria to Beirut to continue his studies at the American University of Beirut. He later immigrated to America and attended school in Wisconsin where he met and dated Jobs' mother, a German-Swiss woman, Joanne Carol Schieble. Her her conservative father refused to allow her to marry Jandali. They married a few months after Jobs' adoption and a year later had his sister, Mona. After a trip back to Syria to find a job, Jandali returned to the US where he was employed as an assistant professor at Michigan University and later Nevada University. He later owned and operated a restaurant and was the Vice Chairman of the Boomtown Casino and Hotel in Reno, Nevada, displaying both book knowledge and a sense of business.
His adoptive father, a mechanic. His blood sister, Mona Simspron, a nocelist.
And let's just ignore the fact that:
The results of this study indicate that genes significantly influence white matter density of the superior occipitofrontal fascicle, corpus callosum, optic radiation, and corticospinal tract, as well as gray matter density of the medial frontal, superior frontal, superior temporal, occipital, postcentral, posterior cingulate, and parahippocampal cortices. Moreover, the results show that intelligence shares a common genetic origin with superior occipitofrontal, callosal, and left optical radiation white matter and frontal, occipital, and parahippocampal gray matter (phenotypic correlations up to 0.35).As per Time Magazine, March 11, 1940: A few years ago a psychologist named Harold Manville Skeels, a professor at University of Iowa, was assigned by the State to advise the State orphanage. He found that the orphanage was sending babies (mostly bastards) born of feeble-minded parents to highly intelligent families for adoption. Horrified, Dr. Skeels hurried forth to see how much damage had been done. He gave the adopted children intelligence tests. To his surprise, their average I.Q. was 115, well above normal (100). Not one was dull.
These findings point to a neural network that shares a common genetic origin with human intelligence. Thus, it seems that the individual variation in morphology of areas involved in attention, language, visual, and emotional processing, as well as in sensorimotor processing are strongly genetically influenced.
Adoption is built on lies and fantasies and has nothing but more lies an fantasies to support its continuation! Yet the public buys it as a "win-win" and refuses to peak behind the smoke screen curtain or admit that the emperor of adoption is naked as a jay bird...and selling lies along with babies!
I just have one question for all the die-hard kool aid drinking "believers" of these fantasies: If adoption is so wonderful, why doesn't everyone give their children away to be raised by others???
I mean especially the poor...why not take every child from a welfare family and give it to a working family?
Then take all the children of the working class and give them to the upper middle class?
Any child riding to school in a mini-van deserves a chauffeur driven limo! Children deprived of music and dance lessons - well, that's simply unacceptable and selfish of their parents when adoption could offer them"better lives"! And chores? they should be done by the "staff" not chidlren.
It's "win-win" -- especially for those whose livelihood depends on the redistribution of children!
So let's just keep white-washing the pain, and grief, and loss....the feelings of abandonment...the rejection...the identity crisis...and all the other harm of adoption....ignore the vital medical histories that are lost....turn a blind eye to the children who are stolen or kidnapped, or their mothers coerced or duped, lied to, told their kids are going to America for an education...just ignore all the negatives and focus instead on pretend "advantages."
Yeah, that's the ticket. And remember, if you adopt and your kid turns out to be a killer, it's not your fault. It's "bad blood." But if he's a genius or a really good, noble altruistic person, then all praise to you! For you who adopt - it truly is a "win-win." You can't loose. You get praise and if it fails, you get sympathy. After all, everyone would know you did your best with what you had to work with.
For those who are adopted and loose their heritage and have their losses buried and never recognized - just be GRATEFUL - you weren't aborted!
Parents who lose their kids to adoption also need to be thankful that someone else took their "problem" off their hands! They need to remain silent and stop any complaining because after all, their kids are being given a "better life" with far better material advantages than they could have given them.
Hallelujah! All priase adoption!
2 comments:
Mirah,
This is one of your best posts ever. It would be laughable if it wasn't so true. Really, you can just hang up your hat and close your blog. You've said it all.
"It must be the genes"
I had never heard that expressed so readily until I was reunited with my son. This was the catch-all reasoning by his adoptive family for any behavior that he or his adopted sister exhibited that was "bad" or just plain different.
I am still amazed that he uses it to this day. I can only imagine how often he heard it gorwing up.
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