Wednesday, April 29, 2009

We're In The Money, Honey: At the Boutique Baby Booty

Oh Lord, won't you buy me a baby named Jen?
My friends all are pregnant, I must make amends.

Worked hard all my lifetime, no help from my friends,
So Lord, won’t you buy me a a baby boy, Ben?

Everyone's got one...I deserve it...I can buy it lots of THINGS...

April 26, 2009
Cafe Mom Blog Post covers the story of Rebecca Sue Taylor, 19, of West Virginia who tried to sell her 5-month-0old baby for $10,000 because he didn't bond with her. The alleged buyer told her she was going to use a surrogate.

Cafe Mom asks: Is it OK it sell your baby?

Honest to God, REAL selected COMMENTS:
  • - "And really, is that so much different than placing a child for adoption?"
  • - "9 mths she carried that baby and took care of her from the inside, if she wants compensation for all of her hard work then I think that is fine."
  • - "It's not like she was trying to kill her baby. She was trying to give it to somebody who wanted a baby and still take care of herself. I don't think what she did was so bad."
  • - "I really don't think it is wrong for the bio mom to recieve some amount to help her start a new life if she gives up her baby for adoption. Social agencies and lawyers all profit handsomely by the adoption process."
  • - "I think in a difficult living, everyone can do anything, like sell her baby, and it is more better her baby can live health with new parent....."
This is the of the country today, folks! That such a question even had to be asked! But, why not? Surrogacy is role-modeled as being "in" and classy and stylish...

April 30, 2009 Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick announced they are expecting twins - via surrogacy. It is reported that they paid the surrogate $30k and the agency another $100k. It has also been reported that SJP of Sex and the City fame allegedly decided this was good idea after her hubby was rumored to be cheating.

Question: when you hire a surrogate and she delivers twins - do you pay double? Are you committed to keeping both?

April 30, 2009 ( A real busy baby buying day!) AP reports on a 4-year old girl taken into custody because she was sold at birth for $6,000. Born to David, 38, and Angela Schmidt, 33, of Clinton, Mo. Their lawyer says they were "misled" and thought it was a legal surrogacy.

Seems we have succeded in eroding all lines of morality and decency.

Babies for sale - no need to f*ck
Toddlers just...fifty bucks.

Nice house, pool, and pets
I don't smoke no cigarettes
Ah, but..two hours of pushin' broom
Buys me a kid of my own
I'm a man of means by no means
King of the crib.

And then of course the birdman surrogate: Four years after the 58 year old single man left a hospital with twin girls, a bird and no car seats... Stephen Melinger's adoption has been overturned. The girls Melinger he named Karen and Kathy, who were were born in 2005 from a South Carolina surrogate using a sperm donor and delivered in an Indiana hospital and then taken to New Jersey.

The following is a direct, unaltered quote from Child Law:

"the surrogate's attorney, Steven C. Litz (who $olicit$ client$ and $urrogate mother$ on the Internet) completed over 20 adoption$ before the $ame judge in the la$t $everal year$."

Money, money, money
Must be funny
In the rich man's world
Money, money, money
Always sunny
In the rich man's world
All the things I could do
If I had a little money
It's a rich man's world


Lorraine Dusky said...

Mirah, thanks for bringing this all to light. I did not know about Sarah Jessica Parker, but I always knew I did not like her anyway, or that show! Or the movie!

AdoptAuthor said...

Karen Lynn said (and I accidently deleted it):

Mirah, in a twisted way it makes sense that babies/children would be so thoughtlessly commodified in surrogacy, considering the history of the commodification of children in adoption - in tandem with the profits made by private adoption agencies. If adoptees have felt identity confusion, imagine the future: children born of surrogates, sometimes created by egg & sperm of strangers, and then adopted by someone else. I shudder at the thought of the "open records" movement of the future.

AdoptAuthor said...

Exactly, Karen!

If you go to the CafeMom link you will se my comment which mirrors yours. We have blurred the lines and this is not t all surprising to me as a results.

osolomama said...

Actually, I'm not surprised. The adoption and surrogacy industry has totally commodified babies and kids. They are things to shop for at home or around the world. While you know I think that there are circumstances in which adoption is the best remedy, the mental shift that has taken place lately is quite appalling. How is it different? one of the posters asked. Yes, indeed.

I've never been a surrogascy fan.

AdoptAuthor said...

In my home state of NJ we were active supporters of outlawing surrogacy - and we succeeded!

How is it different? Surrogacy is contract to buy a human being. VERY VERY DIFFERENT - *IF* adoption was thought of in the way it was intended: to provide care for ORPHANS and children whose parents were unable to provide safe care for them. NOT to SUPPLY babies to meet a demand!

That is the basis of all the problem here. We have shifted gears and ACCEPTED that change in mind set.
Now adoption mimics surrogacy.

We are one step away from designer CLONES!

For another answer to what is wrong with surrogacy read The handmaid's Tale by Atwood. (The movie is not nearly as good). IT EXPLOITS women in desperate conditions. Orpah condones Indian mothers being used as surrogates! Shame on her.

In the 60's families adopted domestically and "killed" the parents off in their stories. Now they adopt overseas to make the separation more secure.

The industry serves adopters and only adopters. They are the only paying customer in adoption. They want kids with no strings attached - that's what is provided for them. Kids stolen and kidnapped and trafficked with forged papers.

As the Hague and othe rinternational forces close that down...repro tech business will increase.

Nomad said...

I get the feeling that Matthew Broderick and Sarah Jessica Parker despise each other

The Improper Adoptee said...

You we go again. Why don't these women,(AM's) these AP's EVER think about how WE feel(Adoptees)about being bought? I can not even put into words how digusting a feeling it is and the bad feelings we commodities end up having about ourselves when we are treated like mindless dolls bought at ToysRUS...WHEN WILL THEY GET IT THROUGH THEIR HEADS THAT THIS IS NOT HELPING US AND THAT "PARENTHOOD" ISN'T JSUT ABOUT THEM, GETTING A KID, IT IS ABOUT US TOO-HOW WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. These people(?) can not, they do NOT, ever look past a human being being in the infant stage, and that we will grow up wanting to know WHO we are, and how much it hurts that we are treated like we are plastic(and made to feel like we are plastic) and not a person like non-Adopted people, and that we NEEDED to be wanted, loved and raised by our Real Mothers. I don't understand either, why SJP thinks Adopting a baby is fine when her marriage is obviously unstable. It has to be if Matthew cheated on her. Being an Adoptee brought into a screwed up marriage I know all about this. We grow up being taught, at least in my generation, that it is wrong to use other people. Why then, is there a billion dollar business that does this very thing and no one does anything to stop it? Creating a child in an unatural way, ie: through sperm donars and surrogacy, or Adopting a baby out, is NOT good for the baby and the child/teenager/adult that baby will become. People need to start looking beyond a baby in the baby's infant state and see how all this artificalness will screw that baby up. As far as that young woman who wanted to sell her baby in West Virgina, well this is rare, but of course leave it to the damn Adoption Industry to sensationalize it for their own greedy agenda. Most young Mothers would never do this. I really think Sarah and Matthew should reconsider and adopt a Golden Retreiver instead.....good entry Mirah.

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