tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post5044573292450375874..comments2023-12-26T19:43:01.770-08:00Comments on FAMILY PRESERVATION not Adoption Separaration: Glee Raises Adoption Issues: Are they valuable or misconceptions?Mirah Ribenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-36349666703222004072011-11-02T09:01:36.588-07:002011-11-02T09:01:36.588-07:00Dear Anon,
You are the exception, and a lucky exc...Dear Anon,<br /><br />You are the exception, and a lucky exception: an adoptee who has met all their parents. In the vast majority of states (43 or 44) adopted persons (and we are NOT talking about children) are denied access to their own original birth certificates by discriminatory laws.<br /><br />It was Robin, not I who said "blood is thicker than water" here. I agreed saying it was adoptive parents FEAR that that is so that is the issue involved in the concerns about Glee.<br /><br />However...if you ever need a kidney - you'd find out just how perfectly correct that statement is!Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-35312658294539229342011-11-02T06:52:21.021-07:002011-11-02T06:52:21.021-07:00As an adopted child myself, who has met both her b...As an adopted child myself, who has met both her birth parents, I THANK GOD every day that I was adopted. <br />Your comment about 'blood being thicker than water' highly upsets me.<br />Your parents are the people that raise, love and support you throught life, be that adopted, a grandparent, foster parent, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-65886721273397312842011-10-11T10:31:09.843-07:002011-10-11T10:31:09.843-07:00How many children in the foster care system eligib...How many children in the foster care system eligible adoption are teenagers? I doubt that a large number of them are actually adopted and would be very surprised if any of them ended up in a contested adoption.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-63188291921891740362011-10-11T07:58:28.759-07:002011-10-11T07:58:28.759-07:00Yes, contested adoptions are long, drawn out and v...Yes, contested adoptions are long, drawn out and very expenses processes.<br /><br />And also yes that many children in foster in care were taken from parents too hastily and the situations could have been resolved in much better fashion than removing them. However, a parent whose children were wrongfully taken would be suing the state, not the final adoptive parents. In a very case, if a child was removed and quickly adopted, then, yes, the doptive parents might CHOOSE o fight to keep the child and that again would be costly for them.<br /><br />In both cases it is the aps CHOICE to fight to keep a child from a loving, caring parent of parents, rather than do the noble King Solomon thing and let go. Mothers are told all the time that the more unselfish thing is to let go.<br /><br />How many of what children are teenagers? Those in contested adoptions? None that I have ever heard of.Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-78461817470287906612011-10-11T06:09:39.267-07:002011-10-11T06:09:39.267-07:00Perhaps the fear the Adoptive parents are experian...Perhaps the fear the Adoptive parents are experiancing is the fear of being sued. Even if they usually win (which according to you they do) the costs can be crippling (I am not sure how it helps a child to bankrupt the adoptive parents).<br /><br />BTW I am fairly sure that in the case of those 120,000 children in foster care, the birthmothers were coerced by child protective services into giving up the children so adopting from the foster care system won't exactly protect APs from legal risk. Also, how many of those children are teenagers?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-61276601015582024182011-10-09T12:51:26.793-07:002011-10-09T12:51:26.793-07:00Thanks Robin. I think they are kinda one and the s...Thanks Robin. I think they are kinda one and the same; fear of alienation of affection and also that blood really IS thicker than water. It's kind of a shame, especially for adoptees, but aps are very insecure.<br /><br />BTW, the author of the petition did reply to me privately and we had some emails back and forth. She is in an open adoption with visitation. So whatever fear comes across in the petition is not hers, she assures me.Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-75598380612047899002011-10-09T10:33:38.418-07:002011-10-09T10:33:38.418-07:00"What comes across most clearly in the petiti..."What comes across most clearly in the petition is the fear - common among those who adopt - that their child's mother will come back into their lives, interfere in some way, or heaven forbid stake a claim on their child and seek to overturn the adoption."<br /><br />I don't think that's the real fear. I think the real fear is that the CHILD will feel more comfortable with his/her natural mother, will find more commanilities with her and will want to become part of his original family again thus usurping the a-mom's position. I think some APs are worried that blood really is thicker than water.<br /><br />I really liked this post. I'm glad you addressed this issue and agree with your many points.Robinnoreply@blogger.com