tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post3853482068253916546..comments2023-12-26T19:43:01.770-08:00Comments on FAMILY PRESERVATION not Adoption Separaration: Mothers as "Relinquishers"Mirah Ribenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-81853780894904596122017-12-18T17:49:36.905-08:002017-12-18T17:49:36.905-08:00Julie posted another blog post which really made m...Julie posted another blog post which really made me realize just how much PAIN she is in. She lost a child and that is the worst loss anyone can experience. Her anger is oozing out but the pain that underlies it palpable. I wish her peace.<br /><br />Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-41511321905082652922017-12-18T17:44:31.236-08:002017-12-18T17:44:31.236-08:00So after waiting three days for Robin Mokma - or a...So after waiting three days for Robin Mokma - or anyone - to explain to me:<br /><br />"They stand on our backs like they always have to further their own legislation and agendas. They torpedo adoptee-centric legislation.."<br /><br />Robin copies and pastes my bio where I state that I am working to end exploitation, corruption, fraud, and coercion in adoption; working to end trickery like pre-birth matching and pre-birth consents..."proves" that I want legislation to support mothers! <br /><br />Yeah, but how is that hurting adoptees???<br />Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-43017307886311702902017-12-16T17:58:54.027-08:002017-12-16T17:58:54.027-08:00With all due respect, I cannot help wonder if you ...With all due respect, I cannot help wonder if you read my post. If you did, you would not have started out mentioning BSE mother even to compliment that they educate (which is just another generalization for clearly not all mother of that era educate any more than mothers of any other timeframe.) <br /><br />But I do thank you for referring to mothers as mothers. <br /><br />A goal to educate expectant moms not to relinquish is a good one. That is why my blog is entitled Family Preservation. I would very much like to talk with Julie about how we can provide the support and resources needed to do that.<br /><br />My goal is always working together. I have for decades I have networked with like-minded adoptees, adoptive parents, and mothers who lost children to adoption. Together we are far stronger than separately and certainly stronger when we are not fighting with one another or alienating one another. <br />Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-75803714255082321182017-12-16T17:26:05.319-08:002017-12-16T17:26:05.319-08:00I am very glad that she is helping people.
Just a...I am very glad that she is helping people.<br /><br />Just as you learned from Julie, we can ALL learn from one another, if we put aside judgment, name-calling, and anger aside long enough.Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-75900564978035077602017-12-16T14:58:53.453-08:002017-12-16T14:58:53.453-08:00With all respect to BSE mothers, I don't see a...With all respect to BSE mothers, I don't see anything wrong with what she (Julie) is posting. I in fact support her and her posts completely. I have read a number of her blogs. I have read her posts on a anti-adoption, publicly shared facebook group. I whole heartedly support her posts there to be sure. <br /><br />I have what she has posted about her story. She has gone through tremendous loss and heart ache because of adoption. Both her adoptive mother and her mother are both gone. If anything at all I have learned from her. I have reached out again to my oldest daughter in a completely different way. I had a completely difference response from my daughter. I don't know how our future will go, but the response from my daughter was the same day. It included her correcting a misconcept on my part. I appreciate the honesty I received in return. I was given a chance to aploigize for this miss conception. It was a small part of my daughter's response that cane along with a whole bunch of answers to other questions I had asked. You know, the first thing I did was message Julie and thank her for the insight. <br /><br />She is trying to educate would be mothers thinking about relinquishing. Just as I know how fast BSE mothers are to educate. She is doing this no matter what she may be going through personally. Within the lines of her writing I see her trying very hard to prevent future children having to be felt her hand. If she is blogging in her own space about her own feelings, or attempting to educate others in a pubic meduim, why would anyone not in her path toss themselves under her bus? It's not like she is searching out for anyone one of us in particular.AdoptionTearsnoreply@blogger.com