tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post1965952829765320744..comments2023-12-26T19:43:01.770-08:00Comments on FAMILY PRESERVATION not Adoption Separaration: Late Discovery Adoption and Donor Offspring StoriesMirah Ribenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-14262961378326533672010-04-27T21:37:30.601-07:002010-04-27T21:37:30.601-07:00Anon, that is the current thinking in adoption pra...Anon, that is the current thinking in adoption practice and has been for some decades now. Two problems:<br /><br />1) "telling" someone they are adopted is not enough. The door needs to be left open to give permission for future, ongoing discussion, grief needs to be validated and reunification aided<br /><br />2) no way to enforce any adoptive parent to even tell the truth, and less so for kids of repro technology.Mirahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-48839254475307529522010-04-27T21:06:52.678-07:002010-04-27T21:06:52.678-07:00At 16/17 I was told - it was too late. I had been...At 16/17 I was told - it was too late. I had been betrayed, and my life forever altered negatively. At least then I knew I was not a part of the disfunction within the adoptive family. I had in addition to that burden, my own problems to try to solve.<br />I suggest that by age 8 all children need to know the fact of infertility treatment/adoption. Even better if they grow up from day one with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2384966947084602158.post-65552459682659066422010-04-26T15:54:29.345-07:002010-04-26T15:54:29.345-07:00I was part of that closed system which is said to ...I was part of that closed system which is said to have operated 'for most of the 2oth century'.Things change radically in the 1970's giving us rights only dreamed of by many in some other countries.Perhps it would have been more correct to say 2/3rds of the 20th Century...to adoptees those distinctions matter greatly.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com